Hmmm... didn't I have a post title like that before? At least it wasn't about all the extended family drama that has been going on recently. Sigh... everything has seemed to be working out and then Miss Sister-in-law messes it all up again.
She has not only alienated all friends and her brothers but seriously sent all of us over the edge... and her other brother is a professional social worker! I pick it up just by being on the periphery... and not even in the same town.
The brothers finally had to get the police involved when their sister refused to go to either the women's shelter or the hospital when they had set up help for her. They are alerted to where she is staying for now (a shabby hotel) and they are monitoring the house of the friend who made her leave since she still has a key.
Hopefully the end of all of this will be her giving up and going to the hospital for an evaluation and then getting put in to the Lutheran home where she is on a waiting list.
I think of times in my own life (although not quite so dramatic) where I told Someone I was going my own way and could handle my life on my own... thank you very much. Then He let me get to the point where I'm sheepishly coming before the Throne of God and asking him to "fix it". :)
All of this drama also reminded me of Tullian Tchividjian.
Who? Well, I've had a link to his blog almost since CTB&Me started a few years ago. Back when not as many people knew who he was. He's been under the Blogs That Make Me Think category because... he'd always make me think.
He is Billy Graham's grandson whose parents had to throw out of the house and on the streets when he was a teenager. They were heartbroken but feared for the safety of their other children. Now I understand... too much drama.
Oh, yeah... Tullian was recently named the pastor to take over the late D. James Kennedy's famous ministry and large church in Florida after a long search for his replacement. It is an amazing story of redemption as Tchividjian went from a high school dropout who was on drugs to a respected teacher and pastor.
It's somewhat similar to his Uncle Franklin Graham's story of rebellion to redemption. A link to a 2007 interview with Tullian about his prodigal years is.... here. If you know a Prodigal, these two men will give you hope.
As for our own family drama, I know there are times we have to open our hearts and home to help those who are hurting. I'd say most of the time I've been willing to reach out, especially to young people and burned out moms.
But there are also instances when discernment must prevail. Houses have doors for a purpose. There are people we know who can only be helped by letting them hit bottom and get professional help.
I know it surprised my husband when I said absolutely no to his bringing his sister to our house because he was exhausted and only wanted to drive back home right away. However, shortly after that conversation he knew it would not be the wise thing to do so he went about finding her a temporary place to stay.
Poor guy, after the hours and hours he's been on the phone, he is now very happy he's not dealing with her in person. It makes us both glad we "only" have financial and health issues. Neither of us have enjoyed our visit into a soap opera. God gives grace for the day... even for those who must walk this path daily.