Thursday, February 07, 2013

How to stay married without murdering your husband...

Christopher's wedding day...

I'm over at Mom Heart today with a post about how I have stayed married for over thirty years with the circumstances of living with a husband who is bi-polar (aka: manic depressive).

When I first brought up the subject to my fellow Mom Heart writers, I used the above title as a joke.  Many of the other ladies encouraged me to write the post but I decided to use a somewhat more generic title since it IS a ministry blog.  ;)

As you may have guessed already, Christ gets all the glory... here.

Note:  Anna is giving the bride such a dirty look in many of the pictures!  My daughter-in-law says Anna knew who was to blame for disrupting her normal life all week, hehehe.  They have since made up and Anna adores her.  

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Such a wonderful post. I can identify with some of your comments and admire your faithfulness to your husband and to God. You have surely taken the "narrow way" when so many would like given up and been "out of here". God bless you and your husband as you continue to walk with Him.
Elizabeth

Vee said...

Anna is sooo funny! The poor bride! Glad that they are good friends now.

I remember Billy and Ruth Graham disussing marriage once. She said that she'd never thought of divorce, but she had considered murder. Ha!

Lisa in Texas = ) said...

What an excellent post. I really enjoyed reading it and you made a lot of great points!
Lisa :O)

Anonymous said...

Your article mentioned here is well written and with good advice. And you are right...NOW in our older years (over 40 yrs of marriage) things are very good...but with much deep waters inbetween. I have walked in very similar places, plus was chronically ill for many years, as well as having a baby with many health issues to raise too. Statistically marriages with an ill spouse or ill child do not survive. Then add to that problems such as your hubby had!! We failed in ways it sounds like you did not (the children, though I tried my best...twas not enough I guess). But we hope for the future, because of GOD, that is all. Thanks for sharing your story...I hope it helps others who are in the midst of the heavy battle now.
Elizabeth in VA now

HeatherMavis said...

Wow! Just a few days ago I began and then discarded an email to you. In it I was going to try to glean wisdom from you about this kind of marriage. I discarded it because the thought of trying to hash out a description of my marriage relationship made me tired. It was really just today that I realized that though I love him very much and I know that loves me- the feeling like I was" his mother" had crept up on me. That has no place in any marriage.
God knew though, and in this article He has used you to speak wisdom to me. Thank you, Brenda, for being faithful. I will prayerfully refer back to your article as I battle through these times.
I ask for your prayers.

Anonymous said...

i love your article and agree with all of it. we both made mistakes in our marriage, but the problems were certainly "fixable" by the Lord. unfortunately, my husband was not willing for the fixing and i couldn't sustain a marriage alone. it is so sad. i believe that the greatest joy comes from the perseverance and it could have happened for us...