Thank you for all your well wishes and prayers. My brother-in-law's heart had stopped in the ambulance and they revived him. He is now in Intensive Care on life support. I was able to see him in the emergency room and I talked to Bonnie for awhile, telling her she had to tell him it was okay to go.
For the first time, she did just that. There was not a dry eye in that room as she told him she knew he was tired and that finally she was able to say he could leave. This time she knew he would not revive as he had before.
I left the hospital when they moved him to Intensive Care with promises from my niece to call me any time, day or night, when he has gone.
I talked to my sister, Jean, in Florida. She lost her husband (aka: The Old Coot and Uncle Gibby) last year in the fall so she knew what Bonnie is going through.
It is something we expected but still difficult, especially for Bonnie, their kids, and grandchildren. Yes, they are old enough to be my parents although they would have been very young. Bonnie was the second youngest of my mother's seven children from her first marriage (she was widowed in her 30s).
I'll go on with a few posts I have ready to go but I'll write another update when my brother-in-law has passed. I hope they don't keep him on life support indefinitely. Bonnie and I talked about living wills... I told her my request if I was in this position... throw my body in the river 'cause I'm outta' here. :)